I knew I had a problem when I realized I’d been responding to the question, “How are you doing?” with, “Busy!”.
Busy is not really an accurate answer to how I am doing, but rather, what I am spending my time on. Ironically, when asked to write this blog, I had difficulty finding time to actually sit down and write it. My days are usually spent going from one thing to the next. My life is very full – and I love it that way. But unfortunately, this can not only make the people in my life feel like I don’t have time for them, but can make me feel like a mess!
I’ve said to myself, “Get it together!”. But what I really need to do is ask myself, “What needs to change?”.
Sometimes, my schedule manages me and not the other way around.
I feel like I’m always trying to find a balance between everything I have to manage in my life. Between my work, being married and having a social life, sometimes even my husband and I have a hard time finding time for intentional conversation throughout the week. If I’m not careful, busyness can easily take over and become the norm, no matter what the season is.
Slow Down & Make Time for Yourself
I don’t know about you, but I have to be super intentional about slowing down and scheduling time to chill and just BE. Whenever someone asks to get together, I look at my calendar and fill in the gap. But what I don’t realize is, the gap I just filled was the time I needed for myself to recharge.
If I work certain hours during the day and have a social gathering in the evening, it’s important for me to plan a few moments of pause in between. It’s a great feeling not having anywhere to go, or anything to do! I know it’s different for everyone, but I personally feel so much better when I make time for myself.
Some things I enjoy during “me-time”:
– Reading a book or magazine
– Going for a walk
– Dancing/fitness at the gym
– Listening to an audio book
– Drinking coffee and window shopping
We Have the Choice
It’s important to be aware enough to know when to say no and when to say yes.
Remember, when you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else.
I try to remind myself of that every day. I make the choices that fill up my schedule, yet I constantly ask myself, “Why am I so busy?”.
We have this fear that if we don’t have enough going on, people will view us as boring and insignificant.
That is a lie that the enemy feeds us and we believe over and over again. He knows that if we believe that our identity is found in our busy schedules, we won’t make time for the things that matter.
I know that when I start my day off spending time with Jesus, my day goes differently! I have a fresh perspective, and I respond with more grace and peace in my interactions. However, I don’t always make the time to spend with Jesus.
Am I too busy to ask Him how He wants me to spend my day? I know I would rather be guided by Him than go about my activities, not listening to Him at all.
This whole ‘too busy’ thing is definitely something I’m working on. Will you join me in being intentional about making time to slow down and just be? It makes me wonder what would happen if we started each day asking Jesus what He has in store for us.
Are you ready to hear the answer?
Melissa Nichols is a writer, home decorator and lover of all things polka-dot. You will most likely find her wandering the aisles of Target, coffee in hand. Melissa has attended Grace with her husband, Justin, for over four years.